Recently, I’ve seen many people talking about the original book ‘The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a Fuck’, with all the feedback being very positive. In fact, if I’m honest, it’s on my list of books to read but, jokes, who has time to read? I’ll get to it eventually, I promise.
However, I felt insanely inspired this week not only to finally order and read the book (it will be here later this week!) but also to think about what would be on my very own ‘fuck budget’. This week, the total babe Vix Meldrew, wrote yet another, ever-relatable post about creating her own ‘fuck budget’ for 2017 and previously Rhianna wrote her own general ‘fuck budget’ after being inspired by the book (in fact, she wrote one for 2017 today too, which you can find here!)
As I’ve said previously, 2016 was pretty awesome for me and I’m pretty happy with my ‘zero shits given’ attitude to most things in life, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t room for some adjusting to be done! So, in order to keep it short and sweet, as well as making sure everything is manageable for my poor, anxiety ridden brain, I’ve picked three things to give ‘less fucks’ about and three things to give ‘more fucks’ about.
#1 – giving myself some credit
Less: Constantly putting myself down, telling myself I’m rubbish at everything and assuming that I’m a failure in life
More: Believing in myself
To be honest, it’s about time that I saw myself in a more positive light. I’m not talking about being able to walk around saying ‘I’m da bomb’ but at least noticing that I’m good at something in this world.
#2 – only having people in my life that I actually want there
Less: Wasting time with people who don’t matter
Enough waiting for fuckboys to text back. Enough waiting for people I last saw like 3 years ago to contact me. Enough worrying and over thinking every social interaction, especially of those that I give zero shits about.
More: Giving more time and attention to those that actually matter (including those that show I matter to them!)
I’ve finally got a group of people around me that I adore and, in return adore me too – something I’m not sure has ever happened to me. So, this next year is devoted to showing them just how much they mean to me (without being overbearing, obvs) and making sure I don’t self-destruct these beautiful relationships.
#3 – looking after my own wellbeing
Less: Worrying less about other people’s wellbeing and therefore worsening my own
I don’t mean this in the awful way that it sounds. I’ll still care about people, I’ll still want them to be happy, I’ll still worry about whether they’re coping and I’ll still help in anyway that I can. However, it’s also about time that I starting saying no when I’m asked to do something and instead think about if it’s all realistic. After all, I’m only one woman.
More: Listening to what my body needs
Okay, so I’m like the worst ever when it comes to this – especially when I’m ill (hello teacher guilt!). I never take days off, I rarely listen to what my body wants – when I do, I usually feel incredibly guilty – and I’m awful at actually getting up and exercising even though my body is craving it.
So, 2017 will be the year that I listen more: I won’t feel guilty for lying under a duvet all weekend watching Netflix because my body is drained. I will go to the gym more often, especially when I’m really in the mood (even if I’m just so cosy in bed). I will (try) to remember I’m not some weird, human robot and that sometimes you just need to take the time off to let your body rest – no matter how guilty it makes me feel.