I’m not going to lie, I’ve written this post before. A long time ago, when my priorities were probably quite different and I wasn’t at my healthiest point in life. I originally got the idea from Rhianna, who wrote this little beauty, full of blogging commandments (thanks for always being such an inspiration!).
Now I’m healthier, and have been for a while, I feel I’ve got a pretty solid state of commandments that I’m living my life by. Mantra is a strong word, but these are always statements that run strong in conversations I have with people, so I thought they must be the right ones!
#1 THOU SHALT SAY WHAT I AM THINKING
Not in a bitchy way, obvs, but I always tell the truth, no matter what. It’s not that I don’t care if I’m upsetting people or not, I just like to think that I tell the truth in a way that isn’t upsetting, y’know?
I have spent most of my life being too scared to say what I want to say incase it might upset someone or get a beating for it. It’s just not a way to live your life and causes way to much anxiety.
The bottom line is – my opinion matters just as much as the next geezers and, as long as I’m doing it in the right way, why shouldn’t I let myself be heard?
#2 THOU SHALT NOT CARE WHAT OTHERS THINK OF ME
Again, because of the strict ‘rules’ that have taken up most of my life, I’ve usually been too scared to do something because of the consequences. However, as of the last couple of years, I’ve learnt just not to care what other people think – much like when I was 16 and actually happy with my life.
Am I happy? Yes. So what you think of me basically doesn’t matter. I’ve never been happier (or healthier) and that’s all that matters!
#3 THOU SHALT ONLY HAVE PEOPLE IN MY LIFE THAT I ACTUALLY WANT THERE
This one speaks itself. Gone are the days where I have people in my life that I know are only there for personal gain. Friendship is a two way thing, yknow?
#4 THOU SHALT STOP PUTTING MYSELF DOWN
Okay, okay, I need practise with this one…. but I’m getting there slowly, I swear! My refusal to recongise that I’m good at anything in life is a bit extreme and should probably stop!
#5 THOU SHALT LIVE MY LIFE FOR ME AND NO ONE ELSE
I know this seems such a given but, again, I think for such a long time I only did things or made decisions based on everyone else’s needs or wants and it’s just not a life it live. It made me miserable. I got to a point where I looked at my life, along with what was in it, and I realised there was nothing in it that I actually wanted to do.
Let me spread my wings and fly, people!
I know many of these seem like a given, but it’s not always that easy. My mother always said that she reached the age of 50 people she realised that she didn’t care what anyone else thought of her and lives most days regretting it. Life might have thrown me some mahooosive curve balls, but at least I’m able to live by this idea at the ripe old age of 25, instead of waiting another 25 years to realise and it being too late.
What are the commandments you’re living your life by?